Today, I would like to share my thoughts on the theme of “Re-inventing Myself” and some of the things that I’m committing to do this year. Re-inventing myself may sound a bold statement but it's actually totally applicable and possible for anyone, anytime.
Of course re-inventing yourself means different things for different people such as: starting something new, drastically changing how you want to live, or rediscovering who you are. For me, it’s nothing earth shattering, just that I am working on personal growth, which is a foundation for every aspect of our lives including family and relationships, health and fitness, and career and finance. No matter how great of a person you already are, there is always room to grow and improve yourself.
But this time, I am specifically focusing on my inner-self and my consciousness to try to become a better version of myself. So how do I do that? Here are four steps that I decide to follow and dedicate my time and energy towards.
1. First step is to clean up the past. This might be a huge task depending on what you got: from letting go of all the grudges, resentment, limited beliefs, dealing with negative thoughts, emotions, and unfinished businesses. Basically you want to look into your old baggage and get rid of stuff that you think is holding you back.
“Empty your cup so that it may be filled; become devoid to gain totality.” -Bruce Lee
There is no doubt that we are all born with a mission to live our lives to the fullest extent possible. And I believe that the universe is always trying to help us grow, fill our cups with abundant water, and live the lives that we're meant to. But we can only do so after/when we do the clean up and fully open up ourselves.
2. My second step is to learn to handle fear and negative emotions. As much as I am always trying to keep a positive attitude, sometimes, negative emotions arise. I have fear also. I am fearful of judgment, rejection, or failure, in big ways and small ways. You may all have such fears and because of that, we often tend to avoid risks, play safe, and stay within our comfort zone.
But why do I worry about what’s not even happening yet? Why worry about other people’s opinion when I am the one who is responsible for my own life, no one else. If you are letting fear hold you back, you are the one who faces the consequences and is unable to achieve your fullest potential or experience the life that you truly deserve.
“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow and transform.” -Roy Bennett
3. Step three. The tricky part, however, is that the fear and those negative emotions and thoughts are not going away. Debbie Ford, an expert of personal transformation and psychological and spiritual practices, says that we can't do anything about them. We can’t ignore them or make them disappear by achieving something, educating yourself, or negotiating your way out of it. What you can, instead, is to recognize them, own them, truly embrace them by giving them your compassion and understanding, and by putting them in a safe place within you. In other words, in my understanding, we need to learn to tame them and take control back.
So what I try to do is to bring attention to my inner self, centering thoughts on such negative emotions and fear, and entice them in a secure place where I recognize them and hear their loud negative self-talk. Then I tell myself that it’s not that these thoughts and emotions aren’t important or serious but they can be as powerful as I let them be or I believe them to be. I have a choice because the real power is in my consciousness. I can choose to use my inner intelligence to put things in perspectives so that I am informed and aware, but not controlled, discouraged, or depressed by them. The choice is in our own hands.
4. Step number four is a countermeasure to handling negative emotions. We can find the good within us and around us. This is a rather easy task because there have been many good stories, courageous acts, and kindness that are encouraging and inspiring. Let’s give them a loud voice so that they can override the negative ones. That is what we are all striving for in the first place. Let’s put our focus on our good intentions, positive thoughts and ideas and give them the power to spread and manifest themselves. Because, again, thoughts and ideas can be as powerful as we let them be or we believe them to be. The choice is in our own hands.
So these are four steps that I am committed to implementing to Re-inventing myself. I will see how it will impact my daily life, my emotions, relationship, and more.
Lastly I would like to share the affirmation by Clark Kegley that I found to be very powerful that might be of a great use for your personal improvements.
I forgive easily. I now release all grudges, resentments, and stories about my past that held me back for so long. It feels amazing. I am fully committed to living in a beautiful state at all times.
I am unique. There is now one like me. I am here to give my unique gifts to the world.
I am someone who lives with an open heart giving love freely wherever I go. I am living a life true to myself co-creating with the abundant universe.
I am so excited for what the universe has in store for me. I am someone who can change any area of my life at any time. I am fully committed to shifting into the 2.0 version of me.